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August 21, 2014 korea•study abroad•tips hints & pointers•Uncategorized

How to deal with ‘coming home’

So I’m back in England. Welcomed by rain and temperatures of an ‘amicable’ 17 degrees celsius (that’s cold, thank you very much), plane delays and the transpennine express. It’s nice, being back in a country where I don’t have any communication problems (other than people telling me to ‘talk louder’), but it still feels like I’ve left something behind or like my right arm is missing. The ‘home from a year abroad’ feeling. That odd ‘displacement’.

It’s kind of like ‘post-concert/festival/holiday depression’, but so much more intense. It can also be really difficult to deal with – talking to a lot of students that have studied abroad has shown me that – but there are ways that you can lessen the blow from ‘crippling emotional turmoil’ to ‘an easy transition between countries’.

1:  Don’t compare the countries

It’s really easy to constantly compare one country to the other just after a move, as you readjust (or just adjust) to life in your new place. ‘It wasn’t like this in…’, ‘the weather was so much better in…’. It’ll just make you miss the old country more, and you won’t appreciate the quirks and characteristics of the ‘new’ place. Which is sad, because every country is pretty exciting.

2:   Keep busy

Not having anything to do will give you time to dwell on all the things you’re potentially ‘missing out on’ in the country you spent your time abroad in – and that feeling sucks. So keep busy. Meet people you haven’t seen in ages, do things you didn’t get to do abroad (I didn’t get to bake for a whole year, fixing that as I type…). Go to places that you missed. Keep busy.

3:    See ‘going home’ as a good thing.

Sure, returning to the homeland is going to be hard, you’ve been with new people, new friends, new experiences for a really long time and part of the reason you even went abroad was because it was exciting and new. But slapping a label on ‘going home’ and seeing it as a bad thing can make adjusting really hard. I only really came to terms with leaving Seoul once I realised that going back to England was actually going to be really awesome. I have a lot coming up in the next year, and a lot of opportunities that are only really available to me in the UK. All these things were completely overshadowed for a bit by my sadness over leaving Korea – which was terrible! It made everything so much worse. As soon as I remembered all the awesome things, and saw going back to the UK as the newest ‘chapter’ in my life, I felt so much better.

4:   Keep in contact

It wasn’t hard to keep in contact with your friends at home when you were abroad, and it really isn’t hard to keep in contact with people abroad when you’re at home. Skype is a wonderful invention, social media is too. It’s just making the effort to maintain friendships.

5:   It’s all about how you look at things

Really, the best way to deal with ‘coming home’ is to keep a positive outlook on your situation. Look back on your time with fondness and look forwards with an open mind. If you miss the place you were a ridiculous amount, then make plans to return in any holiday time that you have!

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  1. Louise says

    August 26, 2014 at 1:34 pm

    Great tips. I'm moving back to Australia after 18 months in Indonesia in January. I've already done the London back to Australia move before and am not looking forward to the shock of leaving somewhere that has become my home. Hope you settle back in to English life quickly!Love your blog – I've nominated you for a Liebster award! Check out the details on my blog here: http://www.heylouise.com/blog/2014/08/26/the-liebster-awards-blogs/

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    • Fii Cridland says

      August 28, 2014 at 2:45 pm

      Ahh I hope your move goes well!!! Thank you so much 🙂 xx

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  2. Anonymous says

    August 28, 2014 at 3:18 pm

    You have some great tips here and I definitely agree you should't try to compare both places. Best to just see the positives of both 🙂 Nice post!http://novellette.comhttps://www.bloglovin.com/blog/12522799

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    • Fii Cridland says

      August 30, 2014 at 2:35 pm

      thank you! It's definitely something that I fall into a lot, I find it just makes me miss things more:)

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  3. GRACE-Tittirat Tungpanitansook says

    October 17, 2014 at 1:52 pm

    As I visit Korea quite often, I like reading your blog. How long did you study in Seoul? You're spectacular!! I'm going to go to Korea this weekend, so do you mind sharing some of amazing spots in Seoul with me? I like going to places (nice cafes etc.) and taking pictures.looking forward for your reply 🙂

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    • Fii Cridland says

      October 19, 2014 at 2:53 pm

      Awh that means so much to me 🙂 I did already reply to you on instagram, but I'll reply here too in case you see this first 🙂 I studied for a year (September – July) at Yonsei's Korean Language Institute. I was in Seoul from mid-July of 2013 though, so I spent the summer before I started the course. I recommend: Gyeongbokgong Palace – the place itself is gorgeous when the weather is right, and the grounds are so pretty. The area around the national assembly building (Yeoido) is also really nice. Even though Hongdae is really quite touristy now (sad that it's lost a lot of the 'arty' vibe) I really enjoyed walking around the streets there and getting horrifically lost, but there are some really interesting places to take photos. I like all the themed cafes ahah, especially the rilakkuma one. I made it my mission to find alllll the hello kitty cafe's, though I think my favourite of all was Chloris Tea (they have a branch in Sinchon and one in Hongdae too.) All the teas. (my favourite was peach) :3

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